Work with me
This work is conversational, exploratory and relational in nature. For people who sense that surface explanations no longer fully account for their experience.
What we do together
Through exploratory conversation, we pay attention to the deeper patterns in your inner and outer worlds. Often this involves slowing down enough to notice:
- internal contradiction
- recurring relational dynamics
- emotional patterns
- stress responses
- self-protective behaviours
- tensions between appearance and underlying reality
- ways of thinking or relating that may feel automatic, familiar or difficult to question
The emphasis is not on performance, diagnosis or becoming a better version of yourself. It is on developing clearer perception and a more coherent relationship with your own experience.
Many people arrive simply with a feeling that something feels repetitive, conflicted, exhausting or a little bit out of alignment. And that is enough.
Honest exploration can sometimes bring unexpected thoughts, memories, emotions or unresolved experiences into awareness. With more than twenty years' experience working in complex emotional, physiological and relational territory, including trauma-informed practice, these moments are neither avoided nor amplified, but met with steadiness, care and the experience to explore them safely.
"When there is no distance between the thinker and the thought, every thought feels true. Every interpretation feels like fact. Every emotional reaction becomes evidence. Life then becomes an endless attempt to defend, explain, justify or escape whatever the mind is producing. The capacity to observe hasn't disappeared; it has simply gone unrecognised."
A simple way to understand the work
One of the simplest ways to understand the work we do together is through the idea of D.I.R.T. — Distorted Interpretation Replacing Truth.
It isn't a diagnosis or a psychological model. It's simply a way of describing what can happen when our interpretations gradually become so familiar that we stop recognising them as interpretations at all. Instead, we begin responding to them as though they are reality.
Much of the work we do together is simply the process of noticing where this may be happening, so that what has become automatic can become visible again.
These interpretations rarely come from nowhere. They may have developed through our earlier experiences, relationships and expectations, or the conclusions we drew about ourselves and other people along the way. The difficulty comes when an old interpretation continues to shape what we see long after the circumstances that created it have changed.
The aim isn’t to replace one interpretation with another, but to get closer to what is actually true now, giving you greater freedom in how you understand yourself.
This illustration explains the idea more clearly than words alone.
This Work Is:
For You If:
◇ You are curious about the patterns shaping your life.
◇ You are willing to question your assumptions about yourself and others.
◇ You sense there may be a difference between what is true and what has become familiar.
◇ You are interested in exploration rather than self-improvement.
◇ You value clarity more than certainty.
◇ You are seeking understanding rather than answers.
Not For You If:
◇ You are looking for therapy, counselling or crisis support.
◇ You are seeking diagnosis, treatment or symptom management.
◇ You want practical advice or step-by-step solutions.
◇ You want someone to tell you what to do or what decisions to make.
◇ You are looking for reassurance rather than exploration.
◇You want quick answers to complex questions.
What Happens Now:
Sessions take place online, allowing the work to remain accessible internationally whilst retaining the depth and quality of conversation it depends upon. If you’re local to Chippenham, Wiltshire we can do in-person sessions.
Some people choose regular conversations. Others engage more intermittently during periods of change, uncertainty or inquiry.
There is no fixed programme and no prescribed number of sessions. The work unfolds according to what is needed.
Online via Zoom
In person in Wiltshire, UK
BEGIN WITH A CONVERSATION
You do not need to fully understand what you are experiencing before reaching out.
Sometimes the starting point is simply recognising that something no longer feels coherent.
Or finding yourself repeatedly arriving at the same place without fully understanding why.
Or carrying a question that follows you around, despite your every attempt to answer it.
Click here to fill out our contact form or book a discovery call
AVAILABILITY
Sessions are offered by appointment.
There is no fixed programme or prescribed number of sessions.
INVESTMENT
£60 per session.
SESSION LENGTH
Approximately 50 minutes.